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At one point or another, many people have cause to wonder if their partner is cheating on them. When men cheat there are often signs which are blatant and obvious to a careful observer, but perhaps seem a great deal more subtle and easily missed by the partner in the relationship. The following is a list of some areas to take a closer look at if you suspect that your guy might be cheating on you. Keep in mind that (for the most part) any one or even a couple of these things taken on their own is probably not an indication that there is cheating going on, as there can be several reasons for most of the things on the list occurring. If you do see a pattern of behavior developing which involves a combination of several of the following signs simultaneously then it might be time to get suspicious.

Emotional

* Distance. When you are with your boyfriend, does he seem like he is far away? It might happen when you and he are alone together, but it could also occur when socializing with family or friends. His attention will wander, or you will catch him just staring off into space (make sure he is not just watching a television). Other manifestations can include acting like he wishes you would just leave or becoming overly affectionate to an unusual extent (compensating for guilt).

* Tension. Things that you would never have fought over not so long ago are all of a sudden major flashpoints in the relationship. It's easier than usual to find yourself in the middle of a big fight and a lot harder than usual to make up afterwards. After a big fight take notice of any strange behavior, espeically if he left in the middle of one and came back a while later.

Intimate differences

* Sudden changes in the physical relationship are often a tell-tale sign. Suddenly, he seems a lot less interested in the physical parts of your relationship.

* Cheaters are often eager to break out of an embrace. Unlike previously, when you would hold each other for a while and you had fun just kissing, these small signs of affection will diminish or disappear, because someone else is receiving the real affection now.

Physical Details

Physical details are one of the most obvious signs of a cheat. Often, they are quite easy to spot, but be careful because he will be aware that you are looking for something if you don't do it really carefully.

* Is he all of a sudden taking an interest in dressing differently, or putting on a new scent?

* Pay attention to his appearance. Is he noticeably ruffled when returning from somewhere, in ways that raise your suspicions? Most guys don't know it, but there are certain changes in the way our hair goes when we have been intimate with someone. You've probably noticed this yourself at some point.

* Be especially suspicious if he seems to be showering unnecessarily or unusually frequently. Guys are aware that the smell of another woman will linger, so a shower will be important after he leaves her.

If you can get over the natural denial, you should be able to trust your instincts to tell you if your man is cheating. Your subconscious will be handing you dozens of different cues and clues when your relationship changes; most people are not really surprised when the affair is confirmed, because they really already knew. It is important to say again, but do not just assume that an affair is to blame for any of the above. The last thing you want is to start a fight over unfounded suspicions, especially not if that fight actually leads to him cheating! Try not to accuse until you know for sure.

Alex consults for a gift shop offering cheap wedding favors as well as gifts for her. Alex is recently married.